Consider "Jake and Sarah" (names changed for privacy), a couple married for 12 years with two children. When they came to therapy, they described their relationship as “fine.” They loved each other. They co-parented well. They hadn’t had sex in eight months. They had stopped singing the duet and were left with a solo of companionship.
When couples report being “happily married” and “still passionate” after ten-plus years, brain scans show they’ve learned to cue dopamine within an oxytocin-rich environment. That’s the duet. a couples duet of love lust better